How to Stop a Divorce...

When do you know it’s time to file for a divorce? What about how to stop a divorce? When do you know if you need to keep fighting for your marriage?

I have a friend who has been through a divorce and it was not easy...

Him and his ex-wife were in so much pain, they had a hard time not tearing each other to pieces emotionally, while they were in turn doing the same to ourselves. Their emotions were all out of whack. She was desperate to hold on to the marriage and struggled for years after they split to make up with him, to bring the marriage back around. Her father was a preacher, he did not believe in divorce.

The one thing he had on his mind? How to stop a divorce.

They were fortunate enough to get through the incredibly tough years after the divorce when they were both still struggling with their feelings. They have three children together and it was not easy on any of them to know that this was going to happen.

My friend and his wife both waited too long to seek professional help for their marriage.

They tried very hard for several years after things had just begun to fall apart. Their marriage went through a meat grinder and came out the other end in shreds...

...Not everyone has to go through what they did.

Is there hope for your marriage? Do you want to know how to stop a divorce?

Seek out advice first thing. Go to a professional and ask them for their help in doing an extensive repair job on your marriage....

  • Are you not opening up enough?
  • Is he?
  • Are you both on the same page and both want to keep your marriage?
  • Is it easier to stop a divorce than to stop a marriage?
  • Which one is best for you?......

You have to keep all factors in mind. A professional therapist will have the knowledge to at least start you on your way to figuring out how to stop a divorce.

Trial Separation

Another useful idea many have tried is a trial separation. Take time to think before you make such a life-long and potentially devastating decision. Especially if you have children. A separation can provide the time and space needed to force some kind of peace.

If you decide go this route, it won’t work unless both parties are on board. The last thing you want to create is a stalker situation! However, if you really want to give it another try, and your spouse does also, separating for a while may be the answer. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, they say.

Final thoughts...

It is possible to figure out how to stop a divorce before it goes all the way through. But you and your spouse both need to be on the same page and ready to give it another go. If there’s any chance of that, take it! But it’s wise to keep in mind that if you are not together on this decision, one of you is going to end up more hurt than the other.

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