" 10 Ways to Write Effective Break Up Letters..."

Thinking of writing break up letters? Is it because you cant bring yourself to break up with someone in person? Maybe you have tried already and couldn’t find the right way to break the news.

The truth is there is no right way to do it. It’s not that you don’t know what to say. After all you have thought it over and over in your head. It’s more to do with worrying about how the other person will react or whether you can handle seeing them hurting.

If you are not too sure that breaking up is the right thing to do you might be better off explaining to them in person. Even if there is a possibility that you may get back together or you would like to stay friends with your ex. Explaining in person rather than through a letter, why you feel that a breakup is necessary is best. This is because he or she might never forgive you for breaking up with her though a letter.

Break up letters are usually for middle scholars or people in an abusive relationship.This is because in such cases putting your feelings on a piece of paper is much easier compared to facing someone and telling them what they don’t want to hear and then have to watch their reaction or have to listen to them call you all sorts of names.

Most importantly, you have to be honest about your feelings and be clear that you have thoroughly thought it over. Don’t hold back saying what you think and feel.

Here are some tips on writing an effective break up letter:

  1. Be as precise as possible as to why you’re breaking up with them and avoid beating around the bush.

  2. Keep it short, preferably under a page, as the person the letter is addressed to might not have the heart to finish reading the letter and by so doing might not fully understand why you’re breaking up with them.

  3. Make sure you are clear that the relationship is over. Spell it out that the two of you are not right for each other.

  4. The letter you send should be in your own handwriting. This makes it appear more personal and more real.

  5. Make sure you include everything that has been going through your head. Don’t mail the letter if you feel that you have left anything out. Go back and reconstruct the letter if possible. Its most likely that your ex will read the letter more than once, so including everything ensures that the letter makes sense to them.

  6. Refrain from being negative or calling him or her names. It will only bring animosity between the two of you. Besides, it will make it very awkward should the two of you ever bump into each other.

  7. Do not mention that you still have feelings for them even if it may be true or tell them that they are the best thing that ever happened to you.

  8. Desist from saying things that may mislead them into thinking that if they were to change, there would be a chance to resume the relationship.

  9. Do not say how hard the decision was for you to make even if its true because it might give them the impression that your mind is not completely made up.

  10. Outline your reasons for breaking up with them in a way that you would want it explained to you if someone was breaking up with you. That way they are more likely to get the message than if you decide to be vague.

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